June was a very full and busy time in my coaching practice. Online programs, interviews and workshops plus many hours of coaching and one dominant theme has emerged: most people make Oscar-winning movies in their heads and then get themselves into a whole heap of trouble when they live as if these made-up movies are real!
Now I understand that this statement may seem ludicrous but listen up for a bit if you’re confused about what I mean.
In our innocence we believe that if we are not worrying, stressing and overwhelmed with all the stuff that’s going on in the world and in our lives, we don’t care. This is a lie and you don’t have to think that. If you’ve been wearing your ‘deepest concern’ about the state of things as a badge of honour, I am here to tell you that it’s not working. You know that worrying about things doesn’t fix things and yet like me, you still do that.
Over the years I have managed to master a few things that have helped me to stay more positive and aware but I still get myself into a state about certain things, if only briefly.
Once I took the time to notice how much noise I was creating in my own head, I became more conscious and caught myself making movie after movie and then living as if the story was true. I was really good and being “a drunk monkey stung by a scorpion.” Visualize that and then check-in if you’re behaving in that way.
Like I said, it’s done innocently but without taking some time to recognize that you are the one writing, producing, directing and acting out the negative narrative of the made up movie, you will not be able to re-write the story.
It’s your life and it’s your choice and using the excuse “it’s just the way I am” to justify the negative way in which you are living, just doesn’t help you.
The opening story in Ekhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” describes his shock at realizing that he was as crazy as the lady he perceived to be crazy who was speaking to herself out loud. He was speaking inside but the impact is the same. It’s crazy. It makes you stupid (more on the neuroscience of that in the next blog post). It doesn’t help. It keeps you stuck. It’s just a habit.
Get real with yourself about the lies you’re telling yourself about stuff that you have no way of knowing is true.
One of my movies was “if my children/friend/family don’t call me they don’t love me.” What nonsense because I know they love me and they have full lives, and just like me they get caught up in their day. Another really epic one was “People won’t like me if they know this or that – wadda wadda wadda…..” Such BS because I’ve found the more real and raw I am the more people seem to relate to me because I’m being authentically me.
Two weeks ago I completed a three-week on-line live coaching program “Conversations with Sharon” and the results were incredible. Sharing with the group how I came to understand the Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought was the catalyst for change for everyone. Once you become aware that you are NOT your thoughts, it’s a game-changer.
What stories or movies are you making-up in your head?
I am once again reminded of the wonderful quote by Dr Wayne Dyer “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at, change.”
If you want to stop making life damaging movies, the good news is “Conversations with Sharon” #2.0 will commence mid August and run for three weeks in September.
The format is a live on-line drip-feed of knowledge and intuitive channeling every day for three weeks, with a break on the weekends.
I hope that you will join me and be a part of the next Conversation. See all the info here
This is what a few of the participants had to say:
During June another successful Conversation was with Kerry Hardy. Kerry is a remarkable woman and you can read some of her story here…… and watch the recording of the interview on youtube
We will be having more of these “Conversation Cafe” interviews and will send out notification as they happen. Please ensure that you are subscribed to my newsletter if you wish to receive them www.sharoncastlecoaching.com
As soon as lockdown is lifted, we will be sending out notice of the new dates of our Beach Walk retreat, Create Your Future workshops for teens and adults and some very exciting news about my coaching school which will be launching later this year. Send a private message if you are interested and want to be a foundational member of the school and to secure your place.
This will be a 7-month intense coaching training and I will be drawing on my 38 years of experience to teach you how to coach yourself and others towards creating an optimized life of freedom on every level.