Do YOU have self-love?

It’s been a while since I connected with you, I know. To be honest, I really haven’t had much to say.  I like to write when I feel I have something of value to share, rather than pushing stuff out just because I’m “supposed” to.


I recently experienced a little health challenge that left me flat on my back for a while, struggling to feel better, exhausted and desperate to recover from whatever ailed me.  I conceded.  Medication was prescribed.  I took it and recovered.  Then I had to deal with some tummy issues from the medication, but that’s a conversation for another day!


I get that we all feel a little ‘under the weather’ at times but daily exhaustion and feelings of giving up, must be dealt with.  Taking a risk with your health by ignoring the signs that your body always communicates to you is like driving a car with a blindfold – you might get somewhere but not without some distress and pain, or not arrive at all.


I took heed, cut back on my work hours and rested more.  More importantly, I dug deep and reflected on what was happening for me?  Have you had that feeling?  The feeling you’re on the wrong path or pursuing the wrong purpose?  Maybe you feel you’ve been dealt a bad hand, and this is just your “lot” in life?


About 18 months ago, life and work got busier and the stress started to climb.  I had made a deal with myself.  If work started to feel like a drag or if I felt i’d rather be somewhere else, I would take a long hard look at my life.  Reflect on what needed to change.  Unfortunately, I didn’t follow through on that promise.  I didn’t “listen” to my body when I got the first sign that maybe I was out of balance.  I thought I was invincible and that I was strong enough to push through anything.  Well, that didn’t work out!


Today, a few weeks after enduring some stress and concern over my health challenge, I feel better than ever.  That didn’t come from me doing more, it came from doing less.  The weird thing is, my business is doing even better, and I am also developing a new venture!  This time, It’s with grace, with ease and with a lot of gaps in between to rest, reflect and ‘listen’ to my inner wisdom.

I am still in awe of how everything is flowing since accepting the invitation to pivot.  Doors are opening, plans transpiring, collaborations crystalizing and excitement brewing.  All from a place of peace than from a place of desperation to make things work.


My conclusion is:  operating from a quiet mind rather than from an overactive, do, do, do, mentality has dramatic effects on the quality of your life.  It kinda feels like “do less and achieve more.”


I encourage you to take a deeper look into how you are operating.  Do you feel like you’re on a treadmill, running to keep up?  Are you overwhelmed with everything that you feel you need to do?  Are you able to slow down when you need to make important decisions?  Is your mind busy and messy or is it calm and focused?


Science is saying more and more that we must quieten our minds if we want to optimize our productivity.  I am finding this to be true and reaping the rewards.  My new normal looks like me taking care of business in a much more relaxed state.  The game changer was slowing down enough to enjoy each process rather than rush through tasks, with my mind on everything that still had to be done. Being present and aware is the key!


Rumi had this to say:

 “When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety.  if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain.  From this, I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me.  There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it!”


I had made space – space to just be rather than do, do, do.  I’ve stopped filling in every open space in my diary so that I can walk on the beach more;  space in case something exciting and adventurous comes along and that I will be able to say yes to!  Space to connect with my family and loved ones more!  Space to allow whatever needs to show up!


I don’t want to miss out on the magic of life because my mind is so messy and so busy that I cannot ‘hear’ or ‘feel’ the deliciousness of a good life.  A life lived in peace, with all my needs met, in a beautiful place,……..and that is what I have!


I’m so glad, that I was knocked to my knees.  I’m so grateful that I woke up to the magic of life!  I’m so thrilled that I get to be the real, raw and weird woman that I am – now THAT’S is what I call SELF-LOVE!

All my love,


PS:  Many of you have asked me how I managed to slim down and tone up last year and the secret is out!  I joined an online training program that is amazing.  Meal plans, exercise routines, motivation from an expert coach and a full assessment each week to track my progress is what helped me get into shape, and I’m still on the program.


Here is the link to the website and good news –  The Coach is offering a R 100 off the 8-week package, for anyone on my list:


Please use the discount code:  UEUK2PV91XXY to claim your reduced price

  • Annette

    Beautiful pic Sha and very well written.
    Wishing you an enriching renewed season ahead and looking forward to seeing you in April xx

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